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BOOKS

Aging & Retirement

Brooks, A., From strength to strength.

Cowley, M. The view from eighty.

Hollis, J., Finding meaning in the second half of life.

Levitin, D., Successful aging.

Lopez, S., Independence day.

Miller, B.J., Berger, S., A beginners guide to the end.

Scott-Maxwell, F. The measure of my days.

Sedlar & Miners. Donít retire, rewire.

Zweig, C., The inner work age: Shifting from role to soul.

Assertiveness

Alberti, R., Emmons, M. (1990). Your perfect right: A guide to assertive
living. San Luis Obispo, CA: Impact Publishers.

Smith, M. (1975). When I say no, I feel guilty. New York: The Dial Press.

Borderline Personality Disorder

Mason, P. Kreger, R. (1998). Stop walking on eggshells. Taking your life
back when someone you care about has Borderline Personality Disorder.
New Harbinger.

Eddy, B., Kreger, R. (2011). Splitting. Protecting yourself while divorcing
someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. New Harbinger.

Kreisman, J.J. (2010). I hate you, don't leave me. Understanding the
borderline personality. TarcherPerigee.

Career Development

Bolles, R., (2010). What color is your parachute? Berkeley, CA: Ten-Speed
Press.

Caregiving Dementia

Mace, N., & Rabins, P. (1991). The 36-hour day: A family guide to caring for
people who have Alzheimer's Disease, related dementing illnesses, and
memory loss in later life revised edition. The Johns Hopkins University Press;
Revised edition.

Dating

Barker, M.J. (2018). Rewriting the rules: An anti self-help guide to love, sex
and relationships (2nd Ed.). Routledge.

De Angelis, B. (1992). Are you the one for me? Knowing who's right and
avoiding who's wrong. New York: Delacorte Press.

DePaulo, B. (2023). Single at heart: The power, freedom, and heart-filling
joy of single life. Apollo Publishers.

Sills, J. (1987). A fine romance: the psychology of successful
courtship--making it work for you. Los Angeles, CA: Jeremy P. Tarcher.

Wolf, S. (1993). Guerilla dating tactics: Strategies, tips and secrets for
finding romance. New York: Penguin Books.

Woodward Thomas, K. (2021). Calling in "the one" revised and expanded: 7
weeks to attract the love of your life. Harmony.

Depression and Anxiety

Bourne, E. (1995). The anxiety & phobia workbook. (2nd Ed.) Oakland, CA:
New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Burns, D., (1980). Feeling good: the new mood therapy. New York: Avon
Books.

Burns, D. (2007). When panic attacks. New York: Morgan Road Books.

Copeland, M. (1992). The depression workbook: A guide for living with
depression and manic depression. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications,
Inc.

Twohic, M., Hayes, S. ACT for depression and anxiety.

Yapko, M. Brief therapy approaches to treating anxiety and depression.

Divorce and Children

Gardner, R. (1983). The boys and girls book about divorce. Northvale, NJ:
Jason Aronson.

Ricci, I. (1997). Momís House, Dadís House: Making Two Homes for Your
Child

Fulfillment

Frankl, V. (1984) Man's search for meaning. New York: Pocket Books.

Peck, M.S. (1978). The road less traveled. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Seligman, M. (2012). Flourish: A visionary new understanding of happiness
and well-being. New York: Free Press.

Gender Communication

Gray, J. (1992). Men are from Mars, women are from Venus: A practical
guide for improving communication and getting what you want in your
relationship. New York: HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Tannen, D. (1990). You just don't understand: Women and men in
conversation. New York: Ballantine Books.

Infidelity

Abrahms Spring, J. (2012). After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding
Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, 2nd Edition. New York: William
Morrow.

Life Transitions

Peck, M.S. (1978). The road less traveled: A new psychology of love,
traditional values, and spiritual growth. New York: Simon & Schuster, Inc.

Sheehy, G. (1974). Passages: Predictable crises of adult life. New York: E.P.
Dutton.

Loss

Kubler-Ross, E. (1969). On death and dying. New York: Macmillan.

Kushner, H. (1981). When bad things happen to good people. New York:
Schocken Books.

Parenting

Brackett, M. Permission to feel: Unlocking the power of emotions to help our
kids, ourselves, and our society thrive.

Brazeltine, T.B. Touchpoint 0-3 yrs and Touch points 3-6 years.

Dinkmeyer, D., & McKay, G. (1973). Raising a responsible child: practical
steps to successful family relationships. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Dinkmeyer, D., & McKay, G. (1976). Systematic training for effective
parenting. Circle Plains, MN: American Guidance Service.

Dreikurs, R., & Soltz, V. (1964). Children: the challenge. New York: E.P.
Dutton, Inc.

Faber, J., and King, J. How to speak so little kids will listen.

Healy, J. Your child's growing mind: Brain development and learning from
birth to adolescence.

Kennedy, B. Good inside.

Lansbury, J. No bad kids.

Miller, A. (1981). Prisoners of childhood: The drama of the gifted child. New
York: Basic Books.

Mogel, W. The blessing of a skinned knee: Raising self-reliant children.

Siegel, D. J., Bryson, T. No-drama discipline: The whole-brain way to calm
the chaos and nurture your child's developing mind.

Siegel, D. J., Bryson, T. P. The whole-brain child: 12 revolutionary
strategies to nurture your child's developing mind.

Turgeon, H., Wright, J. Now say this.

Relationships

Chapman, G. (2015) The five love languages; The secret to love that lasts

Fray, M. (2022). This is how your marriage ends: A hopeful approach to
saving relationships. New York: Harper Collins.

Gottman, J., Silver, N. (2011) The seven principles for making marriage work

Hendrix, H. (2019) Getting the love you want; A guide for couples (Third
Ed.).

Johnson, S. (2013) Love sense: The revolutionary new science of romantic
relationships.

Johnson, S. (2008) Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of
Love

Lehmiller, J. (2018) Tell me what you want: The science of sexual desire

Levine, A. (2012) Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how
it can help you find--and keep--love.

Perel, E. (2007) Mating in captivity: Unlocking erotic intelligence.

Powell, J. (1976) The secret of staying in love.

Wallerstein, J., Blakeslee, S. (1996) The good marriage: How and why love
lasts.

Self-Help

Birkedahl, N. (1990). The habit control workbook. Oakland, CA: New
Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Burns, D. (1993). Ten days to self-esteem. New York: Quill, William Morrow.

Weisinger, H. (1985). Dr. Weisinger's anger work-out book. New York: Quill.

Weiss, L. (1994). The attention deficit disorder in adults workbook. Dallas,
TX: Taylor Publishing Company.

Sexuality

Comfort, A. (1991) The new joy of sex. New York: Crown.

Kerner, I. She comes first: The thinking manís guide to pleasuring a woman.

Nagoski, E. Come as you are.

Ogden, G. The return of desire: A guide to rediscovering your sexual
passion.

Paget, L. How to be a great lover.

Perel, E. Mating in captivity.

Schnarch, D. Resurrecting sex.

Stress Management

Benson, H. (1975). The relaxation response. New York: William Morrow.

Davis, M., Eshelman, E., & McKay, M. (1995). The relaxation & stress
reduction workbook. (4th Ed.) Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Therapy

Ehrenberg, O., & Ehrenberg, M. (1986). The psychotherapy maze: A
consumer's guide to getting into and out of therapy. New York: Simon &
Schuster.

Time Management

Covey, S. (1989). The 7 habits of highly effective people. New York: Simon
& Schuster.

Smith, H. (1994). The 10 natural laws of successful time and life
management: Proven strategies for increased productivity and inner peace.
New York: Warner Books.

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